DNA test led man to help family with tragic past

John McNally John McNally standing in his kitchen and holding a handbag appeal poster. He is wearing a purple London Marathon finisher's t-shirt.John McNally
John McNally has run three appeals for the Love Grace charity

When window cleaner John McNally took a DNA test to trace his ancestry, he never imagined it would lead him on a journey helping victims of domestic abuse.

The test revealed Mr McNally, from Shaftesbury, Dorset, was related to Grace Millane, a young woman from Essex who was murdered in Auckland in 2018.

Following her death, her family set up a charity - Love Grace - that supplies handbags stuffed with essentials to women fleeing violence.

After connecting with his new-found relatives and discovering their tragic story he felt compelled to help and now runs appeals for the charity in his home town.

John McNally tells Radio Solent how a DNA test helped him find his family

Mr McNally, who grew up in a single-parent family, said his journey started with him trying to find out about his father.

He said: "I always wondered about my dad. Me and Mum used to talk for hours about him.

"Did we, over the years, do enough to find him? We did try but to no avail."

In 2023, someone suggested taking a DNA test.

He said: "I got the results back and it pointed to a couple of cousins on dad's side of the family."

One of the cousins told Mr McNally about the Love Grace charity, set up by Miss Millane's mother, Gillian, and her cousin Hannah O'Callaghan.

As well as its handbag appeal, Love Grace also raises money for White Ribbon charities in the UK and New Zealand, which educate men and boys on attitudes that can contribute to violence against women and girls.

Love Grace A laughing Hannah O'Callaghan holding a blue handbag with a gift tag on it which reads 'love Grace x'. She has long blonde hair and is wearing a denim shirt.Love Grace
Hannah O'Callaghan was made an OBE for her charity work

Ms Millane and Ms O'Callaghan were both made an OBE (Order of the British Empire) in the 2024 King's New Year's Honours for their services to charitable fundraising and tackling violence against women.

Ms O'Callaghan said: "Grace was my youngest cousin but more like a little sister.

"We started off thinking we could do 50 bags in Grace's memory but it's grown and we are now at 33,000 handbags worldwide."

The pre-loved bags contain six essentials - shampoo, conditioner, deodorant, toothpaste, toothbrush and shower gel - and items such as make-up, purses, scarves and notebooks.

Ms O'Callaghan said: "These women who leave, they arrive in refuges, police stations and hospitals with nothing."

Mr McNally has so far run three appeals for Love Grace, collecting bags and supplies, which he described as "a wonderful experience and very humbling".

He added: "It's amazing, I've gone from coming from a very, very small family to being part of a very large family."

Love Grace A yellow handbag surrounded by dozens of personal items including mascara, hairbrush, woolly gloves, hairgrips and nail polishLove Grace
The handbags packed with essentials are given to women fleeing abuse

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