June 4, 2025

41 minutes

Available for over a year

Rylan sits down with actor, writer and President of Mind, Stephen Fry, who discusses how love has helped shaped his life.

From the impossibly high standards set by his parents’ relationship, to the impact of living through the AIDS crisis, and a self-imposed 15-year stretch of celibacy. Plus, having recently celebrated 10 years of marriage, Stephen shares how being in an age-gap relationship has unexpectedly introduced him to the worlds of wrestling and rap.

How to Be in Love – Rylan has loved passionately, lost messily, and is now ready to rediscover what ‘love’ is. But does he need to look at love differently before he can find it again?

Host: Rylan

Assistant Producer: Ben Johns

Producer: Katie Grant

Production Manager: Francesca Bassett

Executive Producers: Barnaby Coughlin and Arron Fellows

Music: Miguel d'Oliveira

Assistant Commissioner: Will Drysdale

Commissioning Editor: Rhian Roberts

A Mindhouse production for BBC Sounds